Hey, You Look Good Today....

Hello again!

So today I want to talk to about something that for me is difficult to talk about, not that everything else is a walk in the park but anyway I want to talk about self esteem. I mentioned in a previous post that my self esteem is particularly low, and that’s for various reasons. I think I will make a few posts covering different aspects of self esteem, and the things I struggle with personally and the things I can do to improve my own self esteem. This is not something that will be fixed over night, it will take a while but I think people often blur the line between self esteem and self confidence, They are two very similar things and they do share common traits, but to me they are separate issues.


 I am confident with speaking to new people, I can do a presentation in front of a class, I am not afraid to express my opinion if I think you are wrong. However this does not mean that I am confident with who I am as a person, and this is why I think this is a self esteem issue and not a self confidence issue. I can  speak to a friend of my mums, but if they give me a compliment I clam up, like why is this stranger saying these things. Just stop, I definitely know that I am not the only person in the world that does it, It seems to me that in the world today it is rare to find anyone that will believe a compliment about themselves, which saddens me. 

That is the first thing I want to talk about, the fact that sometimes you can honestly just feel like you aren't worthy for someone to give you a compliment, my friends can vouch for me on this one, it is just not something I want to hear. But this makes me annoying to be around, always making comments about my appearance; this top makes me look fat, oh no it doesn't you look fine...why then can I not just say thanks friend that’s what I needed, No I am quite insistent that I know best and they are just saying it. See SO ANNOYING.

I can admit to myself that I do this and it is even starting to get on my nerves, but it’s not something that can just change however I am determined to work on how to improve my self esteem and step one, when given a compliment I will just accept it, okay I'm not inundated with endless compliments but when it happens I am just going to  believe it, after all if people didn't think I was worthy of the compliment they wouldn't say it. So I am going to try and work it and embrace it!

I tell people off all the time for putting themselves down, my friends, my mum, so I think it’s about time I start being stricter with myself. So this is on top of the list of project me! I think it is about time that I start to be a little less down on myself and a little more Beyonce. Self esteem is one of those things that is a bitch to overcome and improve. Nonetheless I am going to take it day by day and who knows! 

And for the song of the day if you haven't guessed yet, who other than Queen B. Enjoy.